Happy Birthday Yen Ling

Today is Yen Ling Birthday. Yup both of us born in same year. We are just 1 month apart from each other. I really miss her birthday this year because I have to work and still in Bintulu, while she in Labuan. But early this month before I travel to Bintulu, I brought her birthday present. She was happy when I give her birthday present. It would be nice if I can be with her today and give her the birthday kiss and give her the flower like before and she would be very happy. I like to make her happy. She cute when she happy. Well I only can kiss her when I be back to Labuan this Thursday. Can't wait to be back this Thursday and kiss Yen Ling.

Happy Birthday Yen Ling!

The Begin of the week

Back to work again after the weekend. It been interesting weekend for me. Well just like normal weekend. Noting different happen actually. Except that I been to the Kite Festival in Bintulu. And also to watching the Olympic Badminton final match between M'sia (Chong Wei) and China (Lin Dan). Sadly and like most of us know already even before the game start, M'sia will get silver. Only miracle M'sia can get gold in Olympic.

Hope it will be a good week ahead. Hope there will be a good news to get my car back this week.

Weekend is Coming

Yup! Another weekend is coming soon. Tomorrow will be Saturday, which mean I no need to go to work and also for me to having my break off. Not like before in my previous company, Saturday also work. Ok la.. half day still ok.. but sometimes or most of the time it whole day. Even Sunday also work! Mana ada overtime lagi! It seem the company is taking all the advantage.

Hope tomorrow I will make use of my weekend. Maybe just hang out at town, or watch cinema at cineplex, or just lepak. Not like last week where I when back to Miri for my weekend. This week I will stay in Bintulu only. As this coming Wednesday, I shall start my 2 weeks break off. I will be back to Labuan this Thursday evening and to met with my dearest Yen Ling. Miss her very much!

Past & Present in Working Life

I really like the working environment in my new job. Every work there must be pressure and stress. But it depend what the level of stress one will encounter. But I really like the environment in my office. So quite and far away from town of Bintulu. Not really stressful and the work is OK la. Why I say not that stressful? Because the project that I monitor still not yet start. That why it zero stress and pressure. Plus the environment is surrounding by the little jungle. Every morning I can listen to the bird singing on my window. It a black with white coloured bird. Don't know what it called. The coffee is always there in the coffee maker. Plus, there always a free breakfast in the kitchen everyday! Compared to my last job, It less stress and working environment is much better. Well below are 10 comparissons I make;

Present Job (M)

1. Zero Stress (Project not start yet)

2. Can have a good nite sleep

3. Cola (not coka-cola la) every month

4. Good pay and working environment

5. Good working environment - fair and square.

6. Free coka-cola and soft drinks in office for staffs (ini baru coka-cola minum)

7. Free breakfast everyday

8. Each staff just do his/her own duties only

9. Take time to complete the job... but must complete within or before due time

10. well... still a good place to work in


Previous Job (H)

1. Stressful until can get hypertension in work.

2. Nightmare...even thinking of work before sleep, during sleep and wake up.

3. Cola apa? Coka-cola untuk clients pun kena beli sendiri

4. Teruk punya. Pilih kasih punya la. If the new staff the HQ related to big boss, surely semua kasi punya.

5. Naik gaji jangan harap la... Susah nak naik punya

6. Jangan kata staffs! Clients datang office meeting, nak beli coka-cola pun muka masam sudah. Kena beli sendiri punya. Just served Mineral water. Itu pun kalau boleh paling murah punya. 50 cents!

7. Breakfast?! Kena beli sendiri. If company provided everyday, bankrupt!!! how to take care of the staff like this?

8. If dapat, 1 staff buat kerja 10 staffs...

9. Sorry la. Start 8.00 am, kerja kerja kerja saja la. Semua urgent punya. Tak urgent pun jadi urgent.

10. Aduh... kalau dapat, lepas dapat bonus, keluar la... (my ex-staffs told me)

But thing now change as I managed to get into better job in Oil & Gas Company i.e. one of the best and well do company in Malaysia. Well it a miracle to enter that company, as alot application, only me can accepted into it. Big thank you for all those help me to get into this company. Hope it will last me in the company until my retirement.

Couple Love - Journey in the same boat

Each one of us as human being must experiencing the word 'love' in our life. Not necessary to be in romantic kind of relationship or sexual relationship, even into the experiencing the love of parent (mum and dad) or brotherly love between own blood or close friendship, or love between human and God.

The meaning of Love can be interpret into the context of religion. Each religion give the wonderful mean of it Love from God to Man. In Christian context the word love can be put into several categories i.e. 1)Agape - charitable, selfless, altruistic, and unconditional love, 2) Phileo - brotherly love, 3) Eros - Sexual love, and 4)Storge - child-to-parent love. Christian believe that the whole salvation history is derives from God's Love unto us. Because of Love, God send his only Son, Jesus into the world for us and for mankind. Even until today, to work of God's Love still can be experiencing today by each individual. Or in Buddhism, Love can be put into 3 meaning i.e. 1) Kama - sexual love, Karuna - compassion and mercy, 3) Adve sa & Maitri - benevolent love , unconditional love. Well if you wan to know detail of each religion about Love, you may search in wikipedia or in the Internet.

The Love I would like to share is the love of affection and sexual attraction between man and woman, or boy and girl. This is the kind of love that will lead to relationship as being couple. And eventually will lead to marriage life. This kind of love can be wonderful or can be stressful... It can happen to everyone who undergo this kind of relationships. When the couple are in the in love to each other, they are begin to journey into the same boat. Imagine the boat sail from one place to another location. Alone the journey, it will not be a smooth journey. The sea surely will not calm all the way. There may be rain, storm, sun shine, or windy, but what important is the couple must face it together in the same boat. This can be challenging for everyone, not even before enter into marriage life. It just the beginning. Once the couple be able to go through all the rough sea together, surely they will be able to start the new journey in marriage life, and as later as parent. The journey will start when both are into the serious relationship as so called boyfriend-girlfriend. It will be the test for each to be together and to work together out of respect to love each other. If each of the couple were in deeply in love, surely they will encounter the problem together no matter what happen. It is because the bond of love is so great. One the bond of love is so great, no matter what happen, surely is will be unbreakable and noting will be able to break off the chain of it.

Rules for Happy Marriage

I was having my break off back to Miri for the weekend. I really need a break after all since last week was my bad day. (You may want to read my previous blog to find out). After all, It also good for me. I managed to survey some of the thing I really needs to do in my life. The biggest commitment I want to do this year and next year is for my preparation for my marriage life. Guest it not really easy to plan for the wedding after all. Allot things need to be done. But still allot thing need to be done. After all I never get marry before and this going to be the first time. I just managed to do my wedding budget. Since many things need to cut here and there. Things getting expensive. But with the budget cut, I still able to plan for the wonderful wedding for me and Yen Ling. I prefer to have my wedding reception in Labuan. I like there and hope to be there. After all I found the best location for my wedding dinner will be. It near the beach site and at the poolside. It would be a wonderful wedding reception with Chinese style dinner. I find it more interesting for me because I want it to be different from other Chinese style wedding reception that used to be. Guest almost every chinese couple will plan almost for the same wedding reception i.e. having in restaurant or hall indoor style. After all, I will marry 1 time in my life time only. And it would be a great story to put into my wedding album.



But still allot things I need to do. And I just have less than a year to do the planning and most importantly to save money. Otherwise my Yen Ling would be very very angry with me. hehehe... Time just cannot wait any longer for us to enter into marriage life.

I really need to understand the Philosophy of Rules for Happy Life and to apply it.... (Below is one of it)

Rules for Happy Marriage

Never both be angry at the same time;
Never yell at each other unless the house is on fire;
If one of you has to win an argument, let it be your wife;
If you have to criticize, do it lovingly;
Never bring up mistakes in the past;
Neglect the whole world, rather than each other;
Never go to sleep with arguments unsettled;
At least one everyday try to say one kind or complimentary word;
When you have done something wrong, be ready to admit it;
It takes two to make a quarrel and the one is in the wrong is the one who does most of the talking;

Worry & Confuse

"....Worry is one of two components of anxiety (the other being emotionality). Worry refers to negative self-talk that often detracts the mind from focusing on the problem at hand. Emotionality refers to physiological symptoms such as sweating, increased heart beat and raised blood pressure...." taken from Wikiquote at http://en.wikiquote.org/wiki/Worry

Life is full of unexpectation especially what is ahead of us. We cannot expected everything will be 100% thing will be ok or according to our expectation in the plan. Don't go for high expectation in our life. There also up and down in our life. No human being is 100% normal. As we are just human being. Not a robot. We all maybe do some planning in our life. Or to plan something that we want it to occurs what is best for us and without failure that can dissapointing ourself, if the plan goes beyong our plan. That is why, always there is last minute change in the plan. Or unexpected things happen that can effects what we plan for. It never goes beyong normal. Or someone is spoil your plan for no reason. When things goes unexpectedly as what we plan, somehow we will get worry and nervous. This is normal as we all human.

This is what happens to me in the last few day when I want to coming to Miri/Bintulu by my car. Somehow at the last Brunei exit, my car is confiscated by the Brunei Custom because of just couple of liquor in my car. As what I plan, to drive down to Bintulu via Brunei (no choice but have to pass Brunei as the only road to Miri). But until the last boarder, thing goes beyong my control and immagination. This is not what I planned before I start my journey from Labuan to Miri. And this is my first time also, and as what I told the officer, they should give me a change to let go me as a warning. But no at all. When I encounter this situation, I my mind start to confused and all kind of mixed feeling surrounded me. Even until now, I still worry of my car, that is still detain at Brunei. Hope is will all pervail. and that my car can be release in short time, so that my feeling of worries can be disappear soon.

Hope that the song, Don't worry, Be happy can relieve my worry a bit.

Journey of Bad Day in Life

I been having a very very bad day for last 2 days ago. Really f**king day in my life. The felling of worries, and tensions, and fear. It started on the 5th August, 08, when I was about to resume my duties in Bintulu. So this time I planned to drive to Bintulu from Labuan. My journey start at 6.30a.m. from Ferry terminal Labuan. And the ferry depart Labuan at 7.45 am. Well below is the time frame of my journey back to Bintulu, overnite at Miri and the next day continue to drive to Bintulu..(that was my plan), until the fu*king incident happen near the Sg Tujuh boarder between Brunei and Miri. It was so close but yet still far way...It was the last stop at Brunei before reach Miri..

10.00 a.m - Arv Menumbok Terminal
10.45 am - Arv @ Beaufort, Sabah
11.25 a.m - Arv Sipitang, Sabah. Having my lunch at Sipitang.
12.00 p.m - Continue journey
12.20 p.m - Arv at Sabah/Sarawak boarder - Sindumin
12.45 p.m - Arv Lawas Town, Sarawak
1.15 p.m - Pos Immigration Mengkakap, Sarawak
1.20 p.m - To cross over the Trusan river by feri
1.30 p.m - Brunei Immigration, Labu
2.10 p.m - Brunei Immigration, Puni, Exit to Limbang Town, Sarawak
2.15 p.m - Cross over the Puni River
2.35 p.m - Immigration Malaysia at Limbang
2.20 p.m - Limbang Town, having my break
2.55 p.m. - Continue journey
4.15 p.m - Enter intu Kuala Lurah Immigration Pos, into Brunei
6.45 p.m - Arv Sg Tujuh Immigration Check point.. the Custom officer check the car.

And the bad luck of my day start here... the custom officer stop me from continue my journey, b'coz I was bring alone some bir - about 8 can only! and 2 bottle of Vat 69, 1 bottle Bacardi Lemon and 1 bottle Johnny Walker Red Lable and 2 carton of Pall Mall. It not just for me to sell or what so ever. After the begging and begging again, the stupid custom do not wan to let me go. Instead to hold me and to investigate me back to Kulau Belait. Worst still is my car is being hold, maybe for 2 week or less or more. And only after almost 11.00, with stupid statement, I was release and go off. What the worst is that the custom officer is so stupid until do not what to do and not even know how to spell. Form in English, written in Bahasa!!! and from taking just my statement only, it took 3 officers to composed it!!!! what worst still is they keep asking each others the same things again and again. And they told me that my car need to be hold in Brunei until the investigation complete. So I need to take almost everything out of my car and of course my bag and document bag. And walk to the bus station at Kuala Belait. Thank to some of them also to few custom officer who is friendly and willing to take me to Seria to find cheap inn, but I decline. No money that time lor to stay at Inn, and if I stay at Seria, I need to back to Kuala Belait to take the bus to Miri. Only Kuala Belait have the bus to Miri.

The first person in my life I call is my future wife - Yen Ling. She the first person I call and told her what happen. Well I was worry about her also, since she will be my wife very soon. When you are very in love with person u like, you will thinking of that person and let the person you love very much know what happen to you. So I managed to call Yen Ling while I was at Custom Office at Kuala Belait. And I told her I will call her back latter. So when it finish with the Custom, I was looking for the telephone boot to call her again and to told her not to worry. Guest she the one who ask me not to worry. Only after that, I call my brother to tell him what happen to me.

So for few hours starting from 12 midnite till the next day, the cement chair near the Bus Station will be my bed and place to sleep. No mood to eat my dinner also. (where got mood to eat after all this incident happen.) I take my shower in public toilet. Luckily no one was around. Beside the town is so quite and dead. It a Islamic state!!!! No Entertainment after midnite!!!! Everybody must sleep early!!! If you don't sleep early, the police will fined you!!! It was very hard for me to sleep. Luckily there a old apek was collecting can, so take my time to chit chat with him. I was surprised he told me that nowaday even rice also cannot bring out from Brunei!!!! If like this, better don't encourage people to go there and do shopping la. If shopping there, then latter, conficated also at boarder then what the point of it. After the apek left, I was alone, I try to get some sleep and rest, but my mind was worry and keep thinking of my Yen Ling back in Labuan. I can feel she was very worry about me also just like I worry about her.

The next early morning, about 6.00 a.m, I went to the bus station and waiting for the bus. And it happen, that I was chit chat with 1 man from Miri and wanted to go back Miri. It happen also that last month, he brought 1 bag of rice and wanted to bring back to Miri. Unfortunely at the boarder his rice was taken by the custom at Brunei. For me this is really bad, not only for own country, but also an expression to neightbour country like Sarawak. Immagine, we go Brunei do to the shopping, and wanted to bring it back home, then the custom not allowed you to bring the thing crossover. Then what point to go there? It will be bad for the ecomony of the country especially in the future. Guest after the oil run dry, wonder the Brunei economy will depend on the market and people consumer. By that time, there will depend on neighbour country to do shopping. But what for it, when we buy their things that cannot bring back? Better don't buy at all. No wonder alot Mirian don't want to do shopping in Brunei. Miri is much better to do shopping. Better the f**king Br***i *a*ay are not allow to enter into Miri or Limbang. After all, once they arrive Miri or Limbang, they become two face!!!!

Upon arriving at Miri bus station, I took another bus to Bintulu, coz I need to work. But no mood to work yesterday since I really had my bad day. And I was exhausted and very tired. The whole journey from Miri to Bintulu, I managed to take some sleep and rest. This was the first time incident happen to me. But worst case is my car is in Brunei and I need to claim it back. Hopefully the process will be fast and easy for me to claim back. Wish my car is like batmobile which can self destroy like in the latest Batman movie - the Dark Prince.


The below song will fit me having my bad day. And the title is also Bad Day by Daniel Powter,


Where is the moment we needed the most
You kick up the leaves and the magic is lost
They tell me your blue skies fade to grey
They tell me your passion's gone away
And I don't need no carryin' on

You stand in the line just to hit a new low
You're faking a smile with the coffee to go
You tell me your life's been way off line
You're falling to pieces everytime
And I don't need no carryin' on

Cause you had a bad day
You're taking one down
You sing a sad song just to turn it around
You say you don't know
You tell me don't lie
You work at a smile and you go for a ride
You had a bad day
The camera don't lie
You're coming back down and you really don't mind
You had a bad day
You had a bad day

Well you need a blue sky holiday
The point is they laugh at what you say
And I don't need no carryin' on

You had a bad day
You're taking one down
You sing a sad song just to turn it around
You say you don't know
You tell me don't lie
You work at a smile and you go for a ride
You had a bad day
The camera don't lie
You're coming back down and you really don't mind
You had a bad day

(Oh.. Holiday..)

Sometimes the system goes on the blink
And the whole thing turns out wrong
You might not make it back and you know
That you could be well oh that strong
And I'm not wrong

So where is the passion when you need it the most
Oh you and I
You kick up the leaves and the magic is lost

Cause you had a bad day
You're taking one down
You sing a sad song just to turn it around
You say you don't know
You tell me don't lie
You work at a smile and you go for a ride
You had a bad day
You've seen what you like
And how does it feel for one more time
You had a bad day
You had a bad day

Had a bad day
Had a bad day
Had a bad day
Had a bad day
Had a bad day